Dwell With Understanding

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Ephesians 5:25-33 (NIV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - 30 for we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32 This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

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Today's message struck a chord in my heart. When I used to be with my ex-girlfriend, I would do all things trying to please her. Initially we were happy, but after a couple of years, the relationship started to wither and I dint know why.

Thinking back, I probably was used to the monotonous way of helping her without understanding her real emotional needs. Façade acts of care cannot be compared to real acts of concern. People change, and when I, being the typical me, dint make the intended effort to understand her, decomposition naturally follows.

God have taught us the way to love our spouse that will last forever, let's dwell with understanding, not with habit.